Everything is breaking

The flat is dying, and so are its innards. The boiler keeps turning off by itself, so the hot water runs out, and the radiators are working intermittently. The oven broke, so we have to have meals from the stove, which are confounding me and making the children nostalgic for fish fingers. The washing line has pulled out from the wall, so things are not drying, just getting stinky, like a wet dog. And the dog tripped me up a week ago on my early morning waddle/run, onto gravel just outside Kensington Palace, and I have bloody hands and knees and I look a little like a self-harmer.

But LOOK! the sun has been coming out a bit and I can now wear mid-warmth jackets. PHEW. Here is me at a wedding a few weeks ago with the dapper father of the groom:


I mostly include that photo to show the sun, to show my 5 month pregnantness, and also to show my awful shoes which caused much hobbling and sadness and welts. I also have awful nude tights on, the kind that have a sausage-skin sheen to them. The wedding was lovely and all of the women wore long gowns or short cocktail frocks with salon-ed hairdos, enormous shelves of fake eyelashes, spray tans, huge, high shoes, wraps, and the biggest fascinators this side of Race Day. See if you can spot them:


It’s not very hard. And we stayed here:


We are duck confit and braised beef and chocolate mousses with honeycomb icecream, and we were entertained by a video booth, pick and mix sweet table, disposable cameras, lipstick-and-loveheart lolly favours for the laydeez, hidden soprano singers, endless champagne, Marines in uniform, and a big communal breakfast the morning after. It is quite a different scene, this English wedding thing, after many New Zealand weddings where the local community hall is booked and everyone brings a plate to share for the wedding breakfast, and you do your own makeup and quite possibly buy a second-hand dress.

Its been a month of stuff like that, with the children being looked after by kind babysitters and extremely kind friends two weekends in a row. There was a wine-tour through the Denbies estate in Surrey (a cold, cold day with a bonus few hours after the tour where we ransacked the market town  of Dorking looking for antiques in between sheltering from the rain) and a day in Legoland and today, a magnificent thing – all four children were dispatched to school or nursery and we had a few hours off in Acton to drink coffee and eat cake! Here we are, all alone, and excited, sitting in the sun. (What you can’t see in the photo is a big piece of raspberry stuck to my top lip which Mark couldn’t see because he is useless without his old-man glasses and I didn’t notice until we had visited all of his friends and colleagues in the entire street).


So Ned is going to nursery three mornings a week and I must use the time to be sensible and productive and not bid for Tom Ford sunglasses on eBay. Ned kind-of likes going to nursery, but weeps a bit first.


1. On Sunday afternoon, while we were all battling with the bigger kid’s homework, Ned put a football into our microwave oven and set it on fire and once we had put out the flames, the communal alarms went off and made the neighbours stand outside their own flats owing to the noise until the landlord came to turn off the alarms, after about a two-hour wait.

2. The 20-week scan came and went, and the baby seems to have large testicles. So Mark thinks he could be called Jed. I said that that wouldn’t be ok, because it rhymes with Ned. He looked at me as if I was mental, and said that it was no different than having a kid called Noah and a kid called Ned. Because they both start with ‘N’. Its very hard arguing with that man, when he makes NO SENSE AT ALL.

3. The dog has turned from a skittish cute small fluffy puppy into a big thick mental untrained nutter. On Saturday morning after chasing a dog, while I was talking to a handsome man about (ironically) dog-training, Magic ran out of the park and into Bayswater Road, dodging buses and taxis, and tried to find his way home.  Some woman grabbed him and I ran after him, and there was quite the crowd gathered to see who was responsible for the cute, untrained, nearly squashed-on-the-road boofhead canine.

“He’s Mine! He’s Mine! I’m his incompetent owner!” I shouted to the assembled and disapproving crowd, all pregnant and useless-looking. It was deeply shaming.

4. I’ve moved into fat jeans.


1. We are going to Turkey for two weeks in summer to stay in a villa that has a huge pool, an outdoor barbeque, an outside shower, and is close to the lagoon of Oludeniz and the ghost town of Kayakoy. I can barely contain myself. There will be reading on the loungers and meals out and coffee and browned bellies and hopefully no earache like last time. Also, it would be good if Noah didn’t fall into the sea or the rapids.

2. The sample sales have been kind to me. The Stella McCartney one had knickers for £5 and bras for £10, and lots of terrifyingly well-dressed rich women who were talking about Aspen and New York and weddings in Tuscany. And it took an hour to queue to get in and an hour to queue to pay, but my underthings are so silky and new, it doesn’t matter. And a trip mid-week to Bicester saw me buy a Prada lace collar which, sadly, doesn’t do up. But it could, if only I knew how to sew things. Here’s the queue and a smattering of rich girls in their pilates gear:


3. Barnaby won a short story competition at school, and got given a notebook and a pen in assembly. He can’t remember writing the story, which I find odd, but we’re just going with it.


Casper, on the other hand, needs a haircut:

IMG_1798I’m now off to pick up Ned so we can hang out in the garden and not pick flowers or turn the taps on and off or pick all the figs off the tree. Wish me luck.


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14 Responses to Everything is breaking

  1. Jo says:

    I like the rhyming names. Why not just go with the flow – Ned then Jed followed by Ted and finally Fred. And voila! All eight of your babies’ names are sorted.

  2. Jo says:

    Sorry, that makes seven kids not eight. Hmm, Red?

    • theharridan says:

      You made my mother chuckle, Jo. Possibly with a bit of unsuppressed hysterical horror at the thought of more offspring, all called Red, Ned, jed etc etc. Like Dante’s circles of hell.

  3. jacksta_b says:

    hi there. Just a wave hello from the other end of the world…under recommendations from my friend paisleyjade.
    Love your writing and perspectives on parenting.

    • theharridan says:

      Thanks very much! I sometimes wonder about my parenting perspectives. A little dodgy, but we get there in the end. Hello to you too!

  4. Gem says:

    I must say your blog is a MUST read. I literally DIE laughing. And then reincarnate for the next post. Genius.

    • theharridan says:

      Thank you Gem! If only I wrote more, rather than this ridiculous once-a-month tardy slatternish effort. Bah.

  5. Erin says:

    Looking very slender for 5 months worth of bump! I’ve seen ‘The English’ in the nude stockings with open toe-d shoes.. where the toes aren’t encased. Were yours? What a super shot of Barnaby. Super to see him back in rude health. If you were thinking why buck a good thing and toying with more boho chic then remember the family in the Oyster Bar loos who had Barnaby, Noah, Casper and.. Finn. Alternatively you could always through a bone to your tangata whenua and go off piste with Taine or Tana.

  6. KaseyK says:

    Your hair looks smashing!

  7. Lynley says:

    Jodi, you make me laugh! Come home! I am sure we need another meeting of the film club, its way overdue! xx

  8. Sarah says:

    Oh NZ weddings have changed with the times- you can experience everything you described here now except for maybe the number of fascinators, the variety of heritage buildings and THOSE TIGHTS!!! Lol.

    • theharridan says:

      Yeah, after I posted that I did think I was dredging up a memory of NZ nuptial celebrations circa 1983…

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